When I was in high school every argument with a guy would would be won hands down if he called you a hoe. Didn’t matter if it were true the shame was real and any verbal assault you unleased, no matter how blistering would be forgotten with that one single word. I hate that word although through the years I have used it to distinguish myself from raggedy hoes who were an affront to my sense of purity. At sixteen, I definitely was hot in the ass but I was too damn scared to go all the way because if a boy called me a hoe and my friends found out about it…oh the damn horror so I kept my pants up.
Hoes and Casual sex.
The Urban Dictionary describes a hoe as someone loose in the booty or promiscuous. So does a one night stand make a woman a hoe? I don’t think so. Some women are okay with casual sex when they need that release. I’m ok with a grown ass woman doing her thing as long as its not with my man or other friends men. Casual sex is not for me at all because I love and crave intimacy. If a man got up to go right after sex it would probably hit the psycho button on the right side of my brain. For years I was offended by the thought and behaviour of anyone who did this but I just don’t care anymore.
We waste too much time and energy shaming women about sex. I know I wasted too many years siding with men on who they said were hoes when it really is those mothertruckers who are the real hoes.
Now, I understand the whole women should have a level of moral integrity bigger than a man but isn’t that between her and her spiritual self? Why do I have to get involved in that kind of preaching because hoes have been around FOREVERRRRRRR!
I think the word hoe should be banished from our vocabulary. I’m even tired of typing it. It’s a hateful word intent to bring a woman down to her lowest mental breaking point. There are women who use sex as a serious cry for help and using that word is not going to help solve the problem. Then there are women who enjoy the physical side of a relationship without the emotional attachment…(I don’t know about that FWB thing but some people say it works. I don’t believe it tho). Since men don’t feel shame about sex no woman in 2015 should either. As long as she is a grown ass woman, using protection, and mentally equipped let her do her.
This post is dedicated to my friend who hates hoes and does not understand why I’m friends with a certain someone. Mainly because she is cool AF and you worry too much about other peoples business. SHADE